Anonymous asked: Who are you to judge others lifestyles and lifestyle choices? Maybe making others happy makes them happy? Maybe the previous relationship wasn't working and they just found someone that fit right?

Some circumstances are different. And I am not judging anyone. If that’s what you like, then go for it. But I have known people who date someone for a year and literally a week later they’re with someone else for another year and so on. There is absolutely nothing wrong with making people happy. You’re talking to a person who will literally put everyone’s happiness before my own, even if it kills me. However, time spent alone to be selfish and learn about yourself and what you like and dislike and to do work and go to school and travel. That’s when you grow to be independent. That’s when you start to realize exactly what you want in life. And that’s what makes relationships better, easier. When you know what you want, when you are independent, when you don’t need the person, but rather you want them. 

Plus, there are so many people in the world. Why not wait to really find someone that is absolutely perfect? And gives you extreme butterflies. Someone with passions and talents and loves and hates and has a whole world to share with you? Why not?

How do you know who you are if you’re constantly relying on someone else to make you happy?